There are all kinds of lists of top five or ten or whatever number out there. There are definitely lists regarding pregnancy, especially what NOT to say to an expecting mother. I have read the lists and agree with most of them but in my 22 weeks of pregnancy I have developed my own top five of things I can't believe people have said to me.
5. Once baby gets here, you are not going to have a life.
Really???? You seriously want to tell an already overly emotional woman due to the abundance of hormones that her life is over?!? You must not value your own! Seriously, I know life will be different. Life actually changes every day but those changes can be positive changes. For me, I will have a life just now with an additional family member to love. Lots of people have children and still have identities and careers of their own. I have always manage to do it all, why stop now?
4. I am glad I never had children!
Again, may I remind you I am carrying a child that I am happy to be having? I am happy you are happy with your decision but save yourself a drop dead look from me by keeping your happiness to yourself.
3. Your child is going to be like that demon child screaming and running around.
My motherly instinct is already in overdrive so don't even start to tell me how my child will be and don't tell me how to parent before he even gets here. No one knows but especially any one not carrying my child does not know the temperment of our little boy.
2. Wow! You ate way more than me.
Never, never, never comment on a pregnant woman's weight or how much she consumes. You try giving up wine for nine months, outgrowing all your clothes, having to watch everything you eat but continuing to feel ravenous while still gaining weight! It isn't easy! So leave me alone, I have chocolate to eat.
and my number one hated comment....
1. When are you having another one?
Seriously! Can I just focus on the one I am carrying now?
For your first one, check out Meg Keene at A Practical Wedding. She has a lot to say about how motherhood doesn't have to change your life. (In addition to a lot of pretty awesome stuff to say about marriage - even though the site is called "a practical wedding".)
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